Jumat, 13 Maret 2020

 A Careless Tongue can be More Dangerous than a Sword.
Nowadays, bullying is increasingly common among teenagers. Bullying is an act of someone to others who can cause or make other people become weak and feel insecure, and most often done unconsciously is verbal bullying. Verbal bullying is intimidation through their words to a bully victim. speak at will to make the victim bully feel frustrated, some even want to end his life. And the most concerning, verbal bullying occur in the school environment. Therefore, to prevent bullying from happening in the school environment, especially verbal bullying, teachers and parents can do the following things: foster a child's confidence, support children's talents, communicate well with children. In this way hopefully no child will become a victim of bullying.

The first, fostering self-confidence of children. Teachers and parents must emphasize to children, that all humans in the world are created by the Almighty different. With different uniqueness and talents, so a child must not be inferior or jealous of the strengths of others, because every child has their own strengths that must be developed.Therefore children must not ridicule others, and do not want to be ridiculed, children must dare to defend themselves. Children must be taught to explore their own potential. And make every talk that sneers at him as a motivation to do better. Parents must be able to make children confident in themselves, because by having self-confidence the child will be independent and bolder.  And he will be better able to deal with circumstances that are different from his home environment (independent children who dare to face change, Jim Taylor). Children who have self-confidence will most likely not be bullied, because bullies always look for children who they think are weak, and inferior. (Bullies will usually choose children who lack confidence, Dra Ratna Djuwita, Dipl. Psych, dosen Fakultas Psikologi Universitas Indonesia,-Aisyah Kamaliah - detikHealth). Children who lack confidence will always be afraid of threats, this will cause them to not dare to complain to anyone instead making it even more depressed. Therefore, teachers and parents must work together in growing children's confidence. Educate him with basic skills that can make him independent. Educate him to be able to socialize well with his friends. Because by having self-confidence the child is easier to excel. (a confident child is more likely to perform better than a child who lacks confidence -Indra Bangkit Komara's scientific contributions).


The second, supporting children's talent. Teachers and parents must be able to make children find talents that exist in themselves, and always support and help develop their talents. Convince children that the talent they have is very good and if developed will be useful for their future. Teachers and parents must also give rewards for everything a child does. Not only when he succeeded but also when he failed, teachers and parents must give him an award to inspire him. The tongue is not reinforced, the words are spoken very easily, so do not let the words that come out of our mouths fade the spirit of the child. The teacher and parent must emphasize to the child that all people sometimes have to fail before they can do their best, and he is not alone there are many people who fail but ultimately succeed. Because children who excel because of their talents will have many friends and are loved by their friends. Help children to develop their talents. Supporting every thing he likes that can make him develop his talents. Keep in mind that all children have their strengths, therefore they must be able to highlight their strengths, so that they are more appreciated by others. (Believe in children who excel is likely to be more valued and cared for. Especially if they excel in academia-Molzania)how can children achieve? certainly the most influential is his family, namely his parents. Parents must be actively involved in children's education not only when learning but also when making decisions. (Various research results show a positive relationship between parent involvement programs in education units with children's learning achievement and for the optimization of other aspects of child development (Parcel & Dufur 2001; Tam & Chan 2009; Gonzalez-DeHass et al. 2005).
Source: https://sahabatkel family.kemdikbud.go.id/laman/index.php?r=tpost/xview&id=249900009)Thus the child will be able to excel and certainly will not be a victim of bully or bully. 

Finally, communicating well with children. Teachers and parents must be fun places to tell stories for children. The teacher not only teaches science to children, but must also be someone who can be relied on when children want to talk about their desires. Teacher and parent communication towards children must be able to make children have love for their peers, not make them feel superior or inferior to their peers. Teachers and parents must be able to emphasize to children, that whatever the problem can be told to the teacher or parent. So that any problems encountered at school can be quickly resolved.When a child can tell anything to his parents, the child will assume that the parent is where he tells the story when experiencing problems. Therefore, parents and teachers must be able to create good communicate, thus creating a good relationship between children and parents and with the teacher. (Good communication will create a good relationship-https://doktersehat.com/) That way the problems faced by children will be quickly resolved. Parents and teachers must be able to be good listeners, not cornering children when they tell stories, but able to find solutions to every problem in the story.
Children will also feel more valued when parents are able to be good listeners for them. (By listening carefully and responding, people will feel valued. It can support him to convey the message better, so that we too can receive messages much better-https://pakarkomunikasi.com/) with good communication the problem of bullying in schools will quickly be revealed, and not a problem that drags on to cause casualties.( the benefits of a good listener - making us better understand children - bully problems are quickly resolved-https://id.theasianparent.com/). When parents are able to understand the condition of children, children will feel they have a protector in their lives, so whatever they encounter will be told to their parents. So that bullies will never happen.


In conclusion, verbal bullying can be prevented if teachers and parents have a close relationship with children. although not visible, verbal bullying is very dangerous to the child's development. therefore teachers and parents must work together. Because A Careless Tongue can be More Dangerous than a Sword. Don't let the words of those around you ruin your child's future.Teachers and parents must be able to foster love within each child. That way, hopefully there are no victims or perpetrators, bully. 













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